Today is Day Two.
How did I do yesterday? I took all of my vitamins, Calcium, loaded up on Fish Oil because Dr. Ed Gordon says you should do so. Then I went to a 40th Birthday Party and while I managed to stay away from Wheat (i have a wheat allergy and am trying to stay away from it completely), I did indulge in too much frosting (i prefer frosting to cake!). Kinda overdid it a little bit.
So, if you have a milk allergy and you eat frosting (like I did) you get a stomach ache. But, it was a calculated risk and I was better off eating milk-based frosting than anything w/Wheat in it. Anyway, I then proceeded to confer with my life coach, the wonderful Christine Laureano, on my goals for the detox program. When I wrote them down they were focused on one thing - I need to change the way I think about myself, before I can change the way that anyone else thinks about -- and treats -- me!
Eek. Not loving that. That's actual work, isn't it? Here's what she had to say:
One thing I have learned over time...and hear it again yesterday that just reconfirms it is...we can let all kinds of "excuses" stop us from doing what we want and love. It is so easy to fall into the habit of "not" doing something because it is easier than doing the work to change. But...you just went beyond the first step of awareness! You are aware that you want to make changes that are good for YOU! What I notice... that you are always "there" for everyone else...but give Julie very little quality time. You can help others by letting go and being there for YOU first.
If they are not consciously aware that they need to make life-changing decisions... all your work will go unheard. Concentrate on YOU!
The other changes will come - just trust that they will. (Spiritual work...we'll get to that)There is another question that can help with the overwhelm and the people in your life.....this is a tough one, but one I use all the time for me.
Many of the things that people "do to us" or "react to us" with are a mirror for what we are going. How are some of the people in your life a mirror for what is going on for you?
So...though I enjoy complaining about how the world treats me . . . and walks all over me . . . I actually do not treat myself that great . . . so voila. Again the changing points back to me. And how I take care of myself.
Here's what I am trying to do during my 365 Detox:
- Stay off of wheat
- Minimize cheese/milk products to maybe one day a week (take lactaid if I do)
- Exercise daily, including: walking 2 miles/day. Situps, arm weights, other body sculpting moves to make me feel like a 'person' again, take my vitamins, minerals and supplements every day, do a deep breathing exercise daily (10 mins), and write daily. I have two novels that I'm working on and I like to come up with all sorts of excuses and reasons why I don't work on them.
- Try not to use shopping as a drug/replacement for taking care of me (it's my vice)
- No more excuses!
- Read more books for pleasure, like novels, biographies, poems
- Be more present for my family - not wrapped up in emails or my crazy PDA
- Build my own sense of self and confidence
Can that be accomplished? I don't know. I hope so!
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Can totally relate to a lot here
ReplyDeletecant stop emailing and texting, plus online scrabble (which is probably most healthy of these habits)
I feel like I am barely present half the time cause part of me is somewhere else, with other people
It is hard to read books for pleasure when you are barely present
I also complain way too much!
How Do I stop the complaining?
Be present. Just for one hour each day. Pick an hour. Just do it for that one hour. No texting, no gaming, no emails. Choose the hour when you are 1) reading something or doing something for YOU, 2) being with your family. Both of these - on alternating days - will make a big impact on your life. Try it out and let me know how it goes.
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